Hi I only doing tea ceremony, lunch +ROM so dont worry .. i think a wedding is for yourself so it that is what you wan then go for it :-)
i think dinner is a hassle and well.. been to a few weddings and felt that i didnt get to talk to my friend who got married and they couldnt talk to me either so I decided to skip dinner and made it lunch. My hubby is agreeable so we are happy :-) I only gt one word of advise if you are looking for one. do something you like coz you are the one getting married no one else. Goodluck